Do you struggle to actually believe and internalize positive feedback about yourself?
I’ve been there myself, and 100% of my high performer clients fall into this category – despite being some of the most competent and kind people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing.
Here’s what I think is going on. See if any or all of these might apply to you:
Finding the right approaches for you to unlearn this will depend, in part, on understanding why you struggle to incorporate positive feedback in the first place.
Journaling, affirmations (counter-programming), and intentional practice exchanging feedback with another trusted person are some of my favorite approaches.
I also love guiding my clients through an exercise to unpack all the positive factors that contributed to some of their key successes. It’s amazing to see, after a little teeth pulling, what a rich tapestry of gifts they already possess. They inevitably end up shocked, and a little emotional, to see all the goodness they’d intentionally blinded themselves to.