An uncomfortable truth about those New Year’s Resolutions:
We don’t change until the actual pain of not changing exceeds the perceived pain of trying something different.
The paradoxical good news, once we make it over that high change-aversion threshold, is:
The bigger the pain, the bigger the turnaround.
That’s why I’m deeply grateful that shit hit the fan so early in my life.
It took nervous breakdowns, health crises, career changes, relocations, a divorce, and several toxic relationships for me to finally:
What I needed to change was no small task – not a simple “work out more” or “wake up earlier” kind of resolution.
Instead, I needed to fix a profoundly broken relationship with myself.
And I needed to hit some very painful walls to hold my attention on the real problem long enough to do something about it.
This is why I’m only interested in coaching people who have lived through some heavy stuff.
In the words of Richard Rohr: “Surrender will always feel like dying, and yet it is the necessary path to liberation.”
All the hard stuff is an invitation to a different and better way forward.
If you’re ready to open up that invitation, let’s talk.