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Once, stuck in a crazy-making role early in my career, my best work friend and I invented a game I called the “margarita clock.” We sat down at our desks at 8 am sharp every morning, and we’d see how long we could make it before we felt the intense urge to drink a margarita […]

You don’t owe anyone your story. We are living in an unprecedented period that incentivizes hyper-personal, nonstop sharing about ourselves. Vulnerability, with its many benefits, is finally having its moment – and thank goodness for that. It also, though, creates pressure for some folks to feel like they have to disclose every painful detail of […]

My reflection for International Women’s Day: perfectionism and people-pleasing are the next battlefronts in the fight for gender equality. Our foremothers had to fight the most egregious and overt forms of sexism. That doesn’t mean it’s gone. The women of our generation face a subtler battle: fighting the internalized expectations that still hold us back […]

I used to think my job was to protect people from difficult feelings and take away their discomfort by any means possible. I was the sponge, the buffer, the mediator, the anticipator and pre-emptor of awkwardness and pain. It took too many years to realize that, not only was that approach robbing me of my […]

“I know my anxiety is taking a toll on me, but it’s what makes me more productive than everyone else. It’s the reason I’ve gotten so far in my career.” – Every client I’ve ever had Yes, anxiety can produce some results very quickly, but it’s not sustainable. The truth is, anxiety is a really […]

For most of my life, I was so afraid of making a mistake that I wouldn’t even attempt things I knew I wouldn’t be great at on the first try. I did an A+ job of insulating myself from any situations that would expose me to embarrassment or lack of control. I may have looked […]

Most of my clients, whether they realize it or not, are empaths. If you’re wondering if you might be one, too, here’s a quick checklist. -You are able to read other people without particularly trying. -You can instantly sense the mood of a room as soon as you enter it, even if no one is […]

Uncovering the roots of conflict in the workplace Imagine for a moment that you were sitting down with a group of people to play a new board game. It’s a somewhat complex game. It looks similar to others you’ve played in the past and everyone knows the objective goal, but the players, the cards, and […]

I’ve been having a lot of conversations recently with women who are eager to use their voice and privilege to speak out against oppression and injustice, but are not doing so because they’re afraid of getting it wrong or not striking the right tone. I get it. I’ve been in that headspace, too. Of course […]