Today we’re on to the next part of our series on the most common “cognitive distortions,” or thinking errors. I’m bundling two distortions together this time, because they’re opposite sides of the same coin: The “fallacy of change” and the “fallacy of control.” What they are: The fallacy of change involves the belief that external circumstances or […]

Personal Growth

Fallacies of Change and Internal Control

Most of us were raised with a survival mindset.  The focus was on meeting basic physical needs, and setting ourselves up to continue meeting those needs successfully in the future. That requires a specific set of skills and beliefs. Optimizing for survival means: choosing safety, predictability, and agreeability over anything else there is little margin […]

Personal Growth

From Survival to Self-Actualization