This is the first installment of a series on the most common “cognitive distortions,” or thinking errors. Most of us are subject to these, and they can hold us back from our full potential and cause totally unnecessary angst. The good news is that once you know what they are, they’re pretty easy to spot and self-correct. […]
I used to have a notoriously black thumb. Every plant I bought or was gifted, I managed to kill – somehow even succulents, the needless, resilient warriors of the plant kingdom. Early in the pandemic, I decided it was time to turn things around. I started by hanging out regularly at my local nursery. In […]
Do you struggle to actually believe and internalize positive feedback about yourself? I’ve been there myself, and 100% of my high performer clients fall into this category – despite being some of the most competent and kind people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. Here’s what I think is going on. See if any or […]
I’ve been tremendously enjoying reading “The Good Life” by Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz. The book briefly touches on a few different adult development theories, which particularly caught my attention because they provide a beautiful framework to make sense of how I felt for many years, and something I hear all the time from my […]
If you’re anything like me and my clients, you’re great at remembering everything you got wrong or haven’t done yet – and terrible at remembering all the good, important stuff you actually DID do. Most of us believe the toxic myth that we only get better through criticism and punishment – beating ourselves up. We […]
Words are magic spells. Out of thin air, words cast our identities. They weave stories about where we’ve been and who we’re capable of becoming. They can mend or break a heart. They move millions to create beauty and fight for justice or to self-destruct. Words bubble, swirl, crackle, and float through our minds relentlessly, […]
The recent news about overturning Roe v. Wade really triggered me. My nervous system dysregulated: I couldn’t focus, I felt outside of myself, everything started to look bleak, and I felt personally attacked in a very visceral way that went deeper than I could articulate. I want to be effective and useful in advancing the […]